The help of VMWARE sucks. it tells you what to do but NOT exactly what to do. That, you have to find out yourself

Upgrade your vmware with patch files is being done by: (go to you cli console (ssh))

esxcli software vib update  -d /vmfs/volumes/[DATA-STORE]/[PATCH_FILE].zip

If that does not work use:

esxcli software vib install  -d /vmfs/volumes/[DATA-STORE]/[PATCH_FILE].zip

reboot the machine and you are up and running again.